So much to say…but can’t even get started.

It’s been a lot. I decided to create this blog, and so, of course, in true ADHD fashion, it has taken over my life. I have so much to say and share, but I cannot figure out where to start. Maybe at the beginning…but where is that exactly?

My ADHD diagnosis came when I was a kid in the 1970s, and it complicated my life even back then. Today it complicated the lives of those around me as well. I am now also a mother of children with ADHD who are experiencing the same broken education system that I did. It amazes me that ADHD still does not qualify as one of the five exceptionalities eligible for academic support, according to the Ministry of Education. But that is another post….

When I was a kid, school was tough for me. School is now differently tough for both myself and my children ( I have returned to school). Sitting in one spot is tough, and having no friends continues to be the hardest. The one thing that never changes for anyone is the desire to belong; with all the technology, it remains the one constant.  It begins the day we are born and ends the day we die; I do not believe anyone has a moment when they do not desire to belong. My friendships have always started strong but often quickly fizzle out. Some have persevered, but they are few and rare. I interrupt, forget things, and get accused of gaslighting or being a ‘revisionist historian’ and become bored quickly. I excitedly make plans with people, but as they approach I regret them. I am getting better at following through because when you constantly cancel they stop inviting you.

I am trying to sort this out in my head, and it is not working; I think I need to put the computer down and think about my approach. Do I just post randomly about my life experiences with ADHD and hope it helps others? I want to normalize the life experience from the voice of someone who has lived the experience because I feel that is missing.

13 responses to “So much to say…but can’t even get started.”

  1. Belinda Humphrey Avatar
    Belinda Humphrey

    To be honest, I see your ADHD but that’s not who you are for me. You’re strong, smart, faithful, loyal and caring. Not to mention competent and capable. Those things are your identity for me. I will consider you my dear friend for the rest of my days.

    Work that you’re doing will eventually normalize a diagnosis of ADHD. I’m so doing, children who struggle with this disorder will be identified and accommodated. I have so much faith and admiration for you.

    Thank you for being in my life. 💕

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    1. randomactsofadhdgmailcom Avatar
      randomactsofadhdgmailcom

      Thank you, I am lucky to have people like you in my life.

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  2. Conroy Baltimore Avatar
    Conroy Baltimore

    Hi there. I just wanted to say that you’re doing amazing. As you know, for us with ADHD creating something that puts us out there with no concrete returns is daunting. But you took that first step and should be proud.

    The reward I’ve found from sharing experiences is that people appreciate the honesty and your willingness to be vulnerable. Trust when I say no matter how many people read your posts, it’ll help someone out. So please share your experiences because there’s someone out there who’s afraid to do so. But seeing you be courageous will help them take that initial step.

    I’m looking forward to reading more about your story!

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  3. Conroy Baltimore Avatar
    Conroy Baltimore

    Hi there. I just wanted to say you’re doing amazing.

    As you know for us with ADHD it’s hard to be vulnerable especially when the thing we’re doing (like a blog) might not show tangible results right away, which can be discouraging.

    But please continue to share your experiences. Someone out there may not have a voice and reading your posts may encourage them to share their experiences too.

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      Conroy Baltimore

      Also, remember that you’re doing amazing! This first step is daunting, but it will pay off. I’m looking forward to reading more about your experiences!

      Be blessed.

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      1. randomactsofadhdgmailcom Avatar
        randomactsofadhdgmailcom

        Thank you for your words of encouragement. I hope to help others; even if I can reach just one person, it is worth it.

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  4. Leah Avatar
    Leah

    Congratulations Justine. So proud of you and the beginning of a much needed blog! 💗

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    1. randomactsofadhdgmailcom Avatar
      randomactsofadhdgmailcom

      Thank you. I hope it helps people.

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      1. Leah Avatar
        Leah

        It will definitely help Justine. It is needed.

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  5. Kim Wells Avatar
    Kim Wells

    I love everything about this Blog! I’ve always looked to you for inspiration and wisdom. I look forward to reading your thoughts as you share them. Xo

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    1. randomactsofadhdgmailcom Avatar
      randomactsofadhdgmailcom

      Thank you, I think of you as changing so many lives for so many students. You can connect with them in a way that helps them make positive changes. They are lucky to have you.

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  6. Lynda Behm Avatar
    Lynda Behm

    Justine you have been a inspiration to those who know and love you and HDHD has never defined you as the person you are and to others who have been lucky to cross your path over the years. I know as we have a niece who has HDHD plus Anger Issues and over the years have seen that person accomplish what ever she set her mind too. As Tina Turner would say Your Simply The Best.

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    1. randomactsofadhdgmailcom Avatar
      randomactsofadhdgmailcom

      Thank you so much for your kind words, I hope all is well.

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